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    Speaking Out about Parental Alienation – His Story
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    Do Your Children Refuse to Use “Half” and “Step”?
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    Why Stepmum In Stilettos?
    SMIS 4 July 2020
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    The Devastation of Being Refused IVF, Simply Because You’re a Stepparent
    SMIS 10 May 2021
    Parental responsibility as a stepmother - it matters when it's raining
    Stepmothers and the Law II: Parental Responsibility
    SMIS 7 July 2020
    Finding the right legal advice
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    happy stepmother happy life
    6 Commandments for New Stepparents
    SMIS 7 February 2022
    Top Tips For Getting Your Stepchild’s Mother Out Of Your Head
    SMIS 22 September 2021
    coping with high conflict as a stepmother
    How I Coped with High Conflict as a Stepmother
    SMIS 30 January 2021
    measurable resolutions for the anxious stepmother
    8 Measurable Resolutions for the Anxious Stepmother
    SMIS 1 January 2021
    Why no one should call you that woman ever again
    Why No One Should Call You “That Woman” Ever Again
    SMIS 25 September 2020
    Stepmother guilt for having a cup of coffee
    Enough of the Mum and Stepmum Guilt – No More!
    SMIS 15 July 2020
    Woman in heels sitting on ledge by the sea
    Why Stepmum In Stilettos?
    SMIS 4 July 2020
    How to work your monthly cycle to your stepmother advantage
    How to Work Your Monthly Cycle to your Stepmother Advantage
    SMIS 24 June 2020
    An Interview with a Stepmother Surviving Her Partner’s Parental Alienation
    SMIS 13 June 2021
    being a stepmother without access to your stepchildren
    Existing as a Stepmother Without Access to your Stepchildren
    SMIS 13 April 2021
    Two years without your daughter
    Living in a Nightmare – Two Years Without Your Daughter
    SMIS 18 August 2020
    speaking out about parental alienation
    Speaking Out about Parental Alienation – His Story
    SMIS 5 August 2020
    A stepmother on the outskirts of the conversation - what step parenting taught me about parenting
    What Struggling as a Stepmother Taught Me about Parenting
    SMIS 2 September 2020
    step siblings and half siblings together
    Do Your Children Refuse to Use “Half” and “Step”?
    SMIS 10 July 2020
    Raising our Children to be anti-racist
    Raising Our Children to be Anti-racist
    SMIS 3 July 2020
    stepmother finances in a stepfamily
    The Stepfamily’s Finances; Madness and Sacrifice?
    SMIS 8 October 2020
    margarita nights for the sweet magnolias
    In Defence of Noreen – Netflix’s Sweet Magnolias
    SMIS 18 January 2021
    Tiara for new royal stepmother
    A New Stepmother in the Royal Family
    SMIS 20 July 2020
    Woman in heels sitting on ledge by the sea
    Why Stepmum In Stilettos?
    SMIS 4 July 2020
    Couple dealing with infertility
    The Devastation of Being Refused IVF, Simply Because You’re a Stepparent
    SMIS 10 May 2021
    Parental responsibility as a stepmother - it matters when it's raining
    Stepmothers and the Law II: Parental Responsibility
    SMIS 7 July 2020
    Finding the right legal advice
    Stepmothers and the Law I: Finding the Right Legal Advice
    SMIS 28 June 2020
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Here’s a loaded question for you - what names ha Here’s a loaded question for you - what names have you been saddled with on your stepparent journey? 

I’ve truly heard it all from you, and it’s often pretty appalling. 

🌷Home Wrecker
🌷Other Woman
🌷THAT Woman
🌷”Her”

And other various obscenities of differing levels of creativity.

The formidable Margaret Atwood talks about the way political leaders dehumanise people by removing their names. Doing so dissolves a person’s sense of self and self-worth, and is a very effective way of asserting control over a population.

The same psychology is used against you when you’re called something unpleasant, or when someone refuses to use your name when talking about you or addressing you. They might not even realise it, but their intention is to show you just how little you matter, how much you are to be disdained, and that they are powerful when you are not.

Match this against the powerfully misogynistic titles that are used in your name’s place and you get something of an insight into the way women are pitted against each other, and made to feel that there’s only room for one. In-fighting is a great way to destroy a group after all - you need only turn on BBC News to see a great example of that this week 🇬🇧🙍‍♂️

But, my love, a rose by any other name would smell as sweet, and what they call you does not your worth define. 🌹

And if you want to reclaim any of the names you’ve been called over the years, drop them here👇👇or DM me and let’s have a good old chuckle 😉 for it is OUTRAGEOUS BEHAVIOUR and deserves to be seen as such!

#stepparentproblems #thatsnotmyname #stepmumlife #stepmumcommunity #ukbloggers
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