Stepmum resources


The essential reading list for stepparents.

We have Brits, Australians, Canadians, Kenyans, and an awful lot of Americans – it’s a global thing baby. This blog is not sponsored, and all of the below are set out purely because they’re useful and/or have been referenced in the articles.

This list follows on from the blog post Raising Our Children to be Anti-racist.

For younger readers:


For Stepmothers and Young Adult Stepchildren


A small list in the grand scheme, but the below will lead you down a dark Instagram hole from which you won’t want to escape. Last updated May 2021.


  • @thestepmumcollective – a new account in 2021, doing great things with giving a voice to UK stepmothers in particular.
  • @ukstepmum – currently fighting for stepparent fertility rights.
  • @_charlottegough – just such a genuinely lovely lady! If you’re spiritual and/or interested in self care, she’s the one to follow.

And the accounts I rate States side…


  • @radicalstepmomspodcast – love love love this account (as do 11k others). The way she articulates the darker stepparent thoughts is just magic.
  • @blendcredible – the bio-dad and stepfather’s perspective. Account is currently inactive but loads of good stuff on there still.
  • @blendedandblack – focussing on bringing people together and finding harmony within stepfamilies.
  • @wickedstepmom – thoroughly enjoy the writing here. Also deals with infertility struggles and being a childless stepmother.
  • @theinclusivestepmom – beautiful pictures, and an expert in LGBTQ dynamics.
  • @stepmomming – a comforting account, aimed towards the struggling stepmother with a “been there” tone.
  • @blendedfamilyfrappe – irreverent, with a focus on the ugly, difficult parts of stepfamily life. A fellow “you are not alone” advocate.